A Reunification Journey

It can be hard to say goodbye to a child for whom you have cared. Even so, foster and adoptive mom, Betsy, shares why she would do it all over again.

“Currently, we are a family of six; four children and my husband and I. And, we always said that we wanted to adopt someday, we just didn’t know what that was going to look like. And so we said, why not? You know, in our own community, why not foster? And it was a little under about 10 years that we have done this. We’ve taken in 17 children and we have adopted twice.

“With our daughter, about a year after her adoption, we had her, we had her brothers for 16 months and they went back, and they were reunified. That’s the, that’s the hardest thing. Hardest, hardest thing we did as a family. And I would always tell someone to do it. People have asked me, you know, when they were considering taking in siblings of a child they have, because of that exact thing. What if they don’t stay?

“Our home is filled with pictures of her brothers. And we had Thanksgiving and Easter and Christmas. And we had 16 months of living as a family and celebrating. And if I had to do it all over again, I would do it in a heartbeat.

“There was a time that we took almost a year and a half off because it was such a difficult part in our fostering. But not a month didn’t go by that. Our children didn’t say, ‘we’re gonna keep doing this, right?’ ‘We’re not done, right?’ ‘Are we a couple of months away from starting again? Like, what do you think?’ That, I just, I can’t even put into words what, you know, that means, that my children, you know, take that angle on this.”



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